Moving On
I really didn't think about how difficult it would be to follow up my last entry.
Do I just carry on as normal? Do I contemplate
I know how difficult it is to gauge what and when you can email/phone someone who has lost someone. It is awkward. It feels like you're walking on eggshells.
When is it okay to send jokes again? When is it okay to chat about nothing in particular? When is it okay not to have to worry about words which may remind them of that person? When is it okay to talk about that person again?
I have decided to continue posting as normal. Some existential thoughts may crop up here and there...
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Many years ago my father had a sudden heart attack and passed away - many of my friends simply said 'I'm sorry' and 'How are you doing'. These simple phrases made me feel that they cared and were there for me. They gave me the opening to talk about it, because I did need to talk about it. If you let the person know you are there and that they can either talk or not talk, the person will probably give you an indication of what they want and if they are ready to talk. If not, just being there will probably help. Its a difficult time ... I'm sure your friend knows you are there for them. Life goes on and normalcy resumes.
Nobody talked to me about it when my father died and it was awful. It was like it never happened and it wasn't acknowledged. Talking is a healing process. Laughing is also healing. Recounting memories of good times or special moments brings the person back for a moment shared. What you wrote yesterday was beautiful and a real tribute to Rob. I wanted to know him. He sounded like someone that would want life to go on and especially humor. If in doubt, add, Rob would have loved this one.
Thank you ladies. :)